The Oracle from the Matrix movies said it more than once: “We can’t see past a choice we don’t understand.”
I’ve made a lot of small, apparently insignificant choices in my life – choices I’ve upheld and adhered to over the years without really understanding why. All I knew for sure was that choosing otherwise made me very, very uncomfortable. I won’t go into detail, because it really doesn’t matter. The choices are meaningful only to me. Only at this point in my life, watching what’s going on in the world, do I begin to understand the reason these choices were made, and that I was right to continue upholding them.
Many of them have no apparent external connection to things like truth, justice or morality. However, I’ve found that my choices are intimately bound to these and other ethical concepts. There are things I’ve refused to “buy into” or allow into my life that are now overtaking and destroying the lives of countless others. This doesn’t make me a better person. It simply means I listened to my instincts and chose correctly for my own life, and now I’m seeing the positive results of those decisions.
Knowing what I know now, I fervently wish I’d made more of these positive choices earlier in life. But who doesn’t? All I can do now is continue to move forward and rest secure in the knowledge that I not only know *how* to make good choices – I know *why*. Finally having the “why” figured out makes all the difference in the world. It makes an easy choice a no-brainer, and a hard choice easy.
I won’t lie – I’ve suffered because of some of these choices – not because they’re bad or wrong, but because they’re unpopular and uncomfortable. Even so, they give me a stability and peace of mind I would never have found otherwise.
Anyone can *make* the hard choices, the unpopular choices, the unfashionable choices. That part’s easy. The hard work is *sticking to your decisions* in the face of negative opposition, in whatever form it takes. It’s worth it.